In many cultures, weddings include rituals that symbolize the couple’s transition from two individuals to one union. They’re referred to as unity ceremonies, but this term can refer to a lot of different things. In my time in the Philadelphia wedding photography industry, I’ve seen almost every cultural wedding tradition there is. Even though some of these practices have existed for centuries, no two are the same, because no two couples are the same!
There are unity ceremonies for every cultural background, even if you’re not strongly connected to your heritage. What’s important is that your wedding ceremony reflect who you are as a couple! For a lot of people, that means including a unity ceremony to symbolize their togetherness. If that sounds like something you’d like to incorporate into your wedding, here are a few forms a unity ceremony can take:
Sand Ceremony
The sand ceremony is a wonderful ritual because it leaves you with something to display as a symbol of your love. The couple each has their own glass of sand in their own color. To symbolize their melding together, they combine the two different types of sand in one glass. There are lots of variations on the sand ceremony. For instance, you can combine the sand in a shadowbox containing one of your engagement photos. You can also use exotic salt instead of sand, if you’re a foodie like me!
Unity Candle
Aubrey and Brett used a unity candle in their wedding ceremony. The couple approaches the altar, where each lights his or her own candle. They then use their candles to light a larger candle. The ritual symbolizes the fire in each of their hearts coming together to fuel their love.
Handfasting
Handfasting is a Celtic ceremony, but many cultures have marriage rituals that involve literally “tying the knot”. Most involve the couples holding hands while a third party binds them with a four- to six-foot length of cord, ribbon, twine, or silk. The knot that is tied has symbolic meaning: the fisherman’s knot is one of the most durable bonds, while the God’s Knot consists of three cords representing the union of the husband and wife with God. Irish wedding ceremonies typically make use of the trinity knot, which dates back to 600 AD.
Wine Blending
Wine blending is the perfect unity ceremony for wine lovers! One member from each of the couple’s families brings a glass of wine to the altar. They pour it into one glass, that the couple then drinks from.
Are you planning a unity ceremony for your wedding? Tell me all about your thoughts on the subject in the comments!
